2018 is getting closer and closer. Time for another round of failed resolutions, right?
Not according to Shelley Wilson.
Shelley Wilson embarked on a year long mission: To set 12 goals for the New Year and, by the following year, completely change her life. Shelley also started a blog to document the whole experience, just for good measure – and to hold herself accountable. After all, now that the whole world knew, she had to follow through.
The way she decided to pursue her resolutions was to take them one month at a time. It perhaps sounds a little odd however, I understand her reasoning. She theorised that the method could help because she always tried to achieve everything at once.
I am the same.
I want to lose weight. Get fit. Write a novel. Travel. Move out of my parents home. Blog. Create interesting BookTube content. I want to figure out what I want to do for the rest of my life. I want to work for myself, with absolutely no clue on how to get there. To learn more and experience more. To learn how to drive!
I want, I want I want. I’m going to go more in depth with that tomorrow.
I could definitely achieve at least a few things on this list, and I have. I’ve travelled to a few places. I just want to travel more. Not in a get your backpack and go kind of thing, but sightseeing holidays to drink in the culture and history.
My only problem, is me.
When I make these resolutions I attempt to do everything at once. Trying to do everything at the same time does not work for me. I’ll do great at the weight loss, but eventually get bored. Before I get bored I decide I need to incorporate the gym, but I don’t do this slowly and ease into it. I’ll head full throttle into five times a week and I’ll keep going until I burn out or get frustrated, because I don’t want to be there. I thought that by mixing it up between gym and their classes it would change my view. The problem is I don’t find ‘eating healthy’ or ‘getting fit’ fun. I never have.
When I’m attending the gym, and people ask me, I say “Yeah, it’s not too bad once you’re there, it’s just getting there” or “I do like the aching feeling afterwards” and that’s true. Both of those things are true. But I still hate it, and that’s something that I’ve never really admitted to even myself.
I know a few people who love going to the gym, like it’s their happy place. Which is great for them, but it isn’t mine. So, how do I make it my happy place? I don’t know. But I know I need to do it, so I should just quit whinging and do it. Easier said than done.
Inevitably I think to the other resolutions, which are unceremoniously kicked to the kerb whilst I throw all my energy into the first two. Then, I freeze. In my yearning to do it all, I do nothing at all.
Shelley Wilson’s idea to have a main focus, one month at a time, intrigues me. It intrigues me and inspires me to the point that I want to try it out for myself. I’ll probably also blog the experience but, don’t get me wrong, Shelley Wilson blogged for accountability.
Here’s the thing about me. If I say I’m going to do something for you, nearly 100% of the time I will come through. (Allowing for circumstances such as severe illness, near death injury or similar). On the other hand, I might tell you about something I’m planning to do, or that I want to do for me. Just me. No one else involved, no one else hurt or disappointed. That’s my own personal get out of jail free card. Sure, I want to do the things I say I want to do, but I freeze and, in all honestly, I don’t expect people to remember.
So blogging the experience wouldn’t be for accountability, or for anyone to keep me in line or tell me what to do (in all honesty, I hate that). I blog because I enjoy it. Taking this on, and following it through, will be a huge aspect of my life. My blog is called nicolexenia.com. It isn’t about me or my life, but it is what I like to talk about or write about. I want to write about this.
I hope I’m allowed and this isn’t some form of plagiarism of any kind. That is not my intent.
So, what are my resolutions for 2018?
1. Eat Healthier
2. Be More Active
3. Learn to Drive
5. Read More
6. Improve Blog & BookTube Channel
7. Get Creative
8. Try Something New
10. Learn Something New
12. Create Something Everyday
As you can see ‘Travel’ and ‘Figure out what I want to do for the rest of my life’ have not outrightly made the list, and that’s because I don’t know how to break that down. I am also going to set some other smaller goals, because my life is a mess and there’s a lot to work on.
I’ll state the reasonings for each of these goals in the specific posts, I have to have something to write on that first day of the month! I’ll probably blog weekly, like Shelley did. She’s given me a lot of inspiration. (So much so I even followed her on Twitter!). The goals are my own, but co-incidently a few of them are very similar to hers. Perhaps that’s one of the reasons why I identified so much with her words? I was reading and listening to someone talk about the things that I want to do, and achieving them.
Now I want to achieve them.
I want, I want, I want. As I say, tomorrow I’ll go into more detail because I’ve read another book just today, which has also inspired me. We’re encroaching on that “Too much too soon” side of me but I’m hoping that, rather than clash, they’ll feed into each other.
Only time will tell, I suppose.
Do you make New Years Resolutions? Do you have plans for keeping them? Let me know.
I don’t know how 2018 will go, I could fall flat on my face and fail within the first month. But I’ll always get back up and try again. I can even fail for months straight and then try again. One thing about me is, I’ll never fully give up trying. And who knows, maybe this way will work for me. Maybe blogging the experience, having that commitment to myself to upload every week will help me (it certainly helped with Blogmas!).
2018 – Here I come.
I think this sounds like a cool idea because you’re right, one of the reasons why people fail is because we have amazing ideas and then bite off too much. This is what I was talking about in my podcast this week – the resolutions are often unachievable, too vague, or people follow along with what their friends are doing – and that can lead to giving up.
I like the way that you’re going to focus on one thing at a time.
I don’t really make resolutions for the new year, but I set myself business goals every month and usually put a personal one in there as well because I know it will annoy me if I come back to it at the end of the month and haven’t done it! I work for myself, so I’m the only person who sees it, but writing it down does give you an extra sense of accountability.
Good luck with your goals and I look forward to reading how you’re getting on with them.
Thanks so much!
When I read about it I thought it was a really interesting idea, so we’ll see if it works out but I’m excited!
Yeah, I do that a lot – bite off more than I can chew. I’m also very vague, looking at the overall picture, so maybe breaking it down week by week will be a bite more bitesize? Who knows!
I didn’t know you had a podcast! What sorts of things do you talk about on there?
Working for yourself sounds awesome! I’ve no doubt it’s bloody tough, but still awesome ☺️
Yes, working for yourself can be tough at times, but I’ve been doing it since 2012 and I love it! The podcast is for adult learners of English, but I cover other topics on there too such as writing skills, communication, traditions and culture – it’s here if you fancy a look https://englishwithkirsty.com/podcast
All the best with your plans 🙂
Tough is definitely the word, yet I still love the idea of working for myself!
Oh wow, that sounds so cool! I’ll definitely have to check it out. I’m always looking to improve my writing skills, and love learning about different cultures and traditions.
Thanks so much! ☺️